Get some 38 special and shot those. 357 packs a wallop and is a real wrist twister. Try some 357 and see what feels right. The 357 is by some measures the best man stopper but you have to be able to handle it or it will do you no good. 9mm is kinda close to 38 SPL and stops a lot of bad guys. 125, 158, 148 really makes little difference at 10 feet.